With her expert status and as one of the most Zen mamas I know, I asked her to grant me an interview. She graciously accepted and our Q&A session is below. For more on what to do with the plants she mentions, read her book recommendation at the end (she lent me her copy, and it's good).
What I do know, is the greatest honor I can give his memory is to never forget how short life is. How fleeting our opportunities to be with people we love are. How lucky I am to have a spark of light for a husband. How lucky I am that I got to know Sam and I'm getting to know Susan better now. How lucky I am to have kids, and a mom, and a mother-in-law, and friends to drive me crazy!